We often try to control our future and dictate the next stages of a date we go on. We wait to feel the other person out, see if they call us, or ask us out again… that kind of stuff. Here are some crazy examples of the rules we’ve been told to follow:
- Don’t call a girl/guy back for three days. You don’t want to seem desperate.
- The male needs to ask the female out
- Don’t date a divorced guy
- You have to decide if you want a long-term relationship by the third date
REALLY? Good lord. No wonder why so many people are cranky and mean when they’re dating… there are so many rules to remember!
My point is, when two people find each other, no matter what their past situation, or what the future could hold, it’s all about the present moment. What do they want or what are they looking for RIGHT NOW? If that certain something is in alignment with what you want, go with it.
Actually, let’s take a step back… What DO you want? Get clear about exactly what your expectations are and stay true to them. Don’t waiver because he has a really cute butt, or could make you some beautiful babies. Stick with your list and respect your own wishes. Then, once you’re clear on what you’re looking for, have fun finding it! Don’t take yourself too seriously, just have fun!
Having fun, by the way, is super sexy! Men don’t want a crazy lady with a checklist, they want the best version of you. Can you think of a better way to show the best version of you? Doubt it! Smile and have fun! Brush up on your fun skills by reading Are you Sexy?
Anywho. Timing. If you feel lost and hopeless, thinking that your dream man will never come your way… there is a reason! Surprisingly, that reason is timing. That man is out there, he just may not be ready for you yet or you may not be ready for him. He is currently going through his life experiences and tuning in to who he really is, just as you should be doing. When the time is right, you will find each other.
I know it is hard to swallow and I can think of a few of my friends who would tell me I am CRAY-CRAY…but I say, try it! Then please report back to me. I am completely fine with feedback that could help my girls!
Because the universe has it’s own plan for you, don’t try and control it. Stay true to yourself, decide what you want and deserve out of life and go for it! Continue on your path of being fun, sexy, and wonderful without stressing over the rules. Make your own, you little minx, you!