Sadly there are many women who are living in abusive relationships on a daily basis. Some think they have no way out. Even more sadly there are countless women dealing with this type of abuse and either can’t admit it or don’t realize it.
Emotional Abuse, in my opinion, is the worst kind of abuse. Physical, although it can hurt, is usually visible to those around you. Emotional is translucent and undetectable by the outside world, unless someone is very in-tune to it. For victims, emotional abuse is subtle and almost undetectable. It isn’t until the victim’s emotions and emotional state are so destroyed that it’s almost impossible to coax them out of it and back to a healthy life.
Here are some signs that you may be in an abusive relationship:
- Your feelings don’t matter to your partner. Suddenly what you want isn’t his/her priority. It’s all about them and what they want.
- He/she constantly makes you feel bad and will get angry or lose their temper over the tiniest things. They belittle you in private and/or in public.
- Constantly making fun of you, but it’s way past playful teasing. It’s not ok when it’s done in a way that is meant to belittle you and your intelligence.
- Feeling as though you can’t discuss anything with your significant other because they either don’t take interest or seem to become annoyed by your “complaining”.
- Feeling frequently criticized or humiliated.
- Your partner ridicules you for expressing yourself.
- They begin to isolate your from family, friends, or groups.
- They limit access to your work, money, or material resources.
- Your relationship seems to swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance and being very close.
- You feel obligated to have sex to avoid a fight.
- You feel trapped in the relationship
- You begin to feel more and more depressed and pulled down by him/her.
These are just a few guidelines for recognizing that you are in an emotionally abusive relationship. If you feel any of these statements apply to you, get out as soon as possible! There are great help lines and groups out there to help you get the courage you need to leave. Remember, if you think your partner isn’t treating you with the love and respect you deserve, you owe it to yourself and have the right to walk away.